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Question: My husband and I are swingers and we have meet other couples. I have caught my husband twice this year, he had unprotected sex with two females and did not use protection. The most recent one, June 2008. I noticed I had a vaginal irritation and rash. Went to OB/GYN and they said you are red, swollen and have a rash. They told me test came back with bacterial vaginosis. Took cream for that. Well, July 2, 2008 I was having severe pain and kept having a lot of bleeding for 2 weeks. Went to the ER and they ran tests and took cultures. I was notified on August 5, 2008 that I had a positive test for gonorrhea. I informed my husband. He trying to figure out where came from. Said the girl caught with in June he asked all questions and talked to her old boyfriend. I said still people will tell you anything. He does not want to believe this girl gave him gonorrhea. She went and got tested and she tested positive. My husband thinks we have had this for a while. I told him I started having burning and bleeding recently. I go to the doctor regularly. I am being treated and my husband is as well. What information do you have regarding gonorrhea. He thinks he may have gotten it from oral sex.

Answer: Gonorrhea is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections. It is caused by a bacteria that can be transmitted through oral, vaginal or anal sex. Fortunately, you can almost eliminate your chances of getting gonorrhea by using a condom. Yes, you can transmit the infection through oral sex, but most people with the infection get it the old-fashioned way, sexual intercourse. You and your husband simply must use a condom when having sex outside the marriage. And now that you know that he doesn't always practice safe sex, you should insist on one with him as well. This time it is gonorrhea, next time it might be HIV. --Dr. Hilda

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