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Question: I have heard of the theory that if a woman is still a virgin later on in her life -- 30s, 40s or older -- that she may as well remain that way. Is the "use it or lose it" theory true? Is a woman somehow harming herself by continuing to wait until marriage or whatever reason? Supposedly, sex is more painful the longer you wait and older you get. I gave my virginity away when I was a teenager to a first love, but, I'm simply curious what your thoughts are on this one. Thanks.

Answer: You should only have sex when you are emotionally and physically ready. And it is never too late for the first time. There is no harm in waiting. Rushing into sex because you fear that you are doing harm to yourself, or your future sex life, is not a good idea. --Dr. Hilda

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