Hello - just a quick update to let you know that I will be appearing on Michael Baisden this afternoon, and my book, “What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex” has been chosen as the book of the week.
-Dr Hilda
The next time your man cheats, you can blame it on his genes. It’s not really his fault, but that of his parents. Confused? Well, new research shows that cheating may be an inherited trait. According to the Swedish study, the gene is found in 2 out of every 5 men. Men who carry one or two copies of the gene—let’s call it the “cheating gene”—were twice as likely to cheat, have marital problems, or remain single. And if he had 2 copies of the gene, he had twice the risk of marital problems. Women married to men with the gene were more likely to be unhappy with the relationship. Men without the gene were more likely to be faithful and affectionate.
Now imagine this: Your man is snoring and enjoying post-ejaculatory bliss, mouth open and saliva drooling on your silk pillow. You quickly and deftly swab the inside of his cheek, careful not to elicit the gag reflex. You quickly package the collected cells and send them to your local lab for testing. You pray he doesn’t have the dreaded “cheating” gene because you have decided that he is the one (or close enough.) But, as these things go, you get a call from the lab and he has 2 copies of the gene. What do you do now? Do you marry or cut your losses before you dump $10,000 on a wedding? Or do you think to yourself that you are so amazing that he will never consider leaving you despite his genetics? Will you ever be able to trust him, or will you spend one hour a night checking his blackberry, pants pockets, credit card bills and wallet for signs of an affair?
Perhaps it is best not to know and save yourself the anxiety. After all, relationships must be built on trust. But then again, maybe you should check up on his dad’s relationship history………
It finally happened. Someone got my dander up enough to make me scream! Allow me to explain. A friend sent me an email with a link to a website: www.labiasurgeons.com. I went to the site and discovered a group of gynecologists that are performing surgery to alter the size, shape and appearance of normal female labia! Is nothing sacred! Are women not already bombarded with messages that tell us we aren’t thin enough, tall enough, young enough, beautiful enough? We need bigger boobs, butts, and lips, smaller feet, fewer wrinkles, brighter smiles, and now, smaller labia! Who decided that women should have labia that look the way they did the day they were born?
I have examined thousands of women, and believe me, no 2 vulvas look exactly the same. The labia come in different sizes, shapes, hues, and textures. And all are beautiful. Instead of teaching women to celebrate their bodies, some physicians are feeding on the insecurities of women that is so pervasive today, and convincing them that they are abnormal and need surgical alteration. Wake up people! The procedure is expensive, is not covered by insurance, is not recommended by the
Can you imagine telling men that their testicles and scrotums are defective? Imagine telling a man that his scrotum and testicles are abnormal: not the right size, are wrinkled, have hair on them and one hangs lower than the other. Now tell him that he needs to have a little “nip-tuck” and a good waxing to make them beautiful like they were the day he was born. How many men do you think would sign up, even if it were offered for free?
If I sound angry, it is because I am. Enough already!
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