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Comment on Enough Already! by Elise

Elise — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 07:18:20 +0000

Hi everybody,
I am a Turkish mother of two and live in Ankara Turkey. While I was surfing for something on bleeding I also by chance encountered a website of a private clinic (Hera Kadın Sağlığı) almost “advertising” vaginal plastic surgery because women so to say “felt ashamed and wanted to feel better in their sex life” and they can “help out”. They had posted some photographs of vulvas patients had not been satisfied with (their consent was taken it said). Anyone looking at these photos (including myself) will recognize some element of their own vulva as resembling some part in those photos and start thinking whether they should maybe not be so satisified with their genitals’ appearance, a dangerous feeling when it comes to confidence in your body and sex. I am going to write them an e-mail for sure, to tell them what I think they should do instead. Women should react more to such “campaigns” that distort a woman’s body image and mainly aim at gaining profit.
Fortunately I was also busy planning some variation in my sex life and also bought your book Pleasure (Zevk). I have just finished it. It has erased all my doubts and uncertainties I feel at times. I found it very well written and sincere and I am even planning to suggest to my gynecologist (Onur Karabacak) to leave it around in his practice among his other reading material on fertility, family planning and hormones stuff in his waiting room for women to take a look at some time and feel more confident as a woman. I am sure many Turkish women could and already do benefit a lot from these books. I am glad I have them and that me and my husband can feel good about ourselves and our sexual relationship while also showing me new doors (I asked him not to read chapters 9 and 10 though, not to lose the surprise element).
I wish everybody a wonderful and fulfilling (family)(sex) life.

Comment on Newsflash! by Lady Di

Lady Di — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:45:18 +0000

Hi Dr. Hilda,
Interesting…my hubby of 19 years has no history of cheating, but flirting is another matter (especially via the Internet). We’ve had the discussion about his activities many times, but he keeps returning to it in some form or another. Each time, he de-escalates the contact, but it’s still a cause for concern for me. My parents had a long and mostly happy marriage until my Dad passed away. My mom never indulged in another relationship even after he was gone. Cheating is not in my relationship “genes” so to speak. My hubby’s parents were married, but not really happy. Most of his siblings have gotten divorced at least once, and divorce is all over the rest of his family tree (including grandparents). We talked about it and he thinks this is partly the reason he feels an sense of uncertainty about OUR relationship lasting - he has no really good role models in that area in his family.

I say we CHOOSE what will happen - genes can contribute, but they are not a certainty. Just found your blog - will be at your appearance at Yale University next week - looking forward to meeting you!

Comment on Enough Already! by Cat

Cat — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 21:34:37 +0000

When will the madness stop? When will women be allowed to love and show off our bodies as they are?

Comment on Enough Already! by audrey

audrey — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 03:03:23 +0000

This kind of surgery is the biggest waste of your money. Our bodies naturally change over time as we age, have children, etc. We should embrace those changes. They are a part of us living a full life and are completely natural.

Comment on Newsflash! by sam

sam — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 13:44:44 +0000

interesting

Comment on Welcome to my website by Janice

Janice — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 03:22:49 +0000

I am going through something that is quite normal but I wasn’t told by my doctor what to expect now that I have had surgery in December 2008 I am in full blown menopause. The night sweat are wet sweats from head to toe then within minutes I an cold an clammy. I average about 2 hours of sleep a night the a few cat nap then after. I was schedule to return to work on the 10th of this month but my doctors cannot determine what is wrong an how to treat other than some more drugs that make me feel like I am tired but I cannot sleep due to the changes of temperatures in my body. The heat starts in the ear area and goes downwards. I am somewhat misrable I don’t know wha to do. I tried getting up taking a cold shower, reading, everything including just prayer and quiet time nothing seems to work I can’t continue to live with 2 hours sleep or drug in dose sleep. Someone please help me. I think it a chemical inbalance but since my diabetes is showing positive numbers the doctor simply says take the meds at a different time but then I am still sweating a river no matter what can someone suggest something that isn’t drug related. I would so appreicative of any info you can providee myself.
Sleepless Jan in FL

Comment on Newsflash! by female libido supplement

female libido supplement — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 09:39:16 +0000

that was interesting… I never heard of that one before, I thought cheating was the way of fulfilling a mans sexual desire by looking for another girls, because he’s not satisfied with his woman… but now that this one came up.. I wonder how can it affect future relationship if it spreads entirely around the globe.

Comment on Welcome to my website by Alycia

Alycia — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:00:20 +0000

Dr. Hilda, I’m a first time blogger but after reading Deborah Beaver 10/0/08, had to write and say I’m in the same situation with different age numbers. I’m happy to see someone feeling exactly the same way I feel and being able to discuss it somewhere. I have been married for 27 years to a man who is 8 years my senior. In the beginning it was great, fantastic even, now it’s terrible, unfair, and I totally at a lost of who I can discuss what I feel too and not sound horrible. I recently joined church so that the desires would not send me in the wrong direction. My husband started on my 49th birthday, he was diagnosed with high blood pressure and pride would not let him talk to his doctor about our problem of his ED. His health went further down hill and his prostate started acting up and now he’s totally without and erection. He has tried several stimulates but nothing is working. So I had him purchase a few toys and the fun of that is gone. I’m 52 and angry, unhappy and here. Help!

Comment on Welcome to my website by Monica

Monica — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 21:23:38 +0000

Dr. Hilda

I heard you on Micheal Baisden and have question? Do automatically have Aids if you have Herpes? I have herpes and someone wants to marry me and I have not been tested since 2005 and I was negative then.

Comment on Newsflash! by Theresa Young

Theresa Young — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 01:48:21 +0000

Dr. Hilda,

Do you still see patient for GYN visit, if so what isurance do you take. Thank Youn